What is the meaning of life? Is an age old question. It has been the inquiry of poets and philosophers for as long as we can trace back. It is as if it is the fundamental question of life. But just maybe, the more helpful question would be, Why do we need a meaning?
Once again, each of us find our lives governed by our upbringing and conditioning. Reason is placed as higher understanding. Cause and effect something that is applicable to all dimensions of reality. So with that in mind, why?
Why is it so important to the human being to have a reason for everything that one does, thinks or concludes? How much more life does it bring to have all your ducks in a row and a certainty of outcome.
“When I get that job I’ll be happy”! “If I can just get through this week everything will be better”! “Once I’m on holiday I can relax”!
All these seem like good and valid reasons to hang in there and have hope for better moments to come, but the problem with this is that our joy becomes projected to a future outcome and can set you up for disappointment if the intended emotion does not come to fruition.
The job ends up being worse than the one before, and you wish you had your old one. You get through the week only to have to deal with a family drama. You arrive on your holiday but spend your time in bed with food poisoning. Expectations are shattered and happiness never arrives.
To need a reason to experience joy and happiness, is to assert the notion that everything will always turn out as planned, and worse than that, it is to miss the chance of realising that joy can be yours in the present moment, simply for the sake of it.
Given the right environment, young children have a joy that is simply just their state of being. Often an adult will burst their bubble with the question “What did you do that for”? upon which a common answer is “I don’t know”. Unsatisfied, and because of their own deep conditioning the adult will refuse to take that as an answer and state “You don’t just do it for for no reason”! But maybe just doing for the sake of doing is why children are so much happier than adults.
It is evident that children are vastly more joyful than adults. Likely because they are less conditioned, and also for their ability to simply be present in the moment. The crazy thing is, adults believe that they are the ones to teach children how to do life.
I have seen time after time a person believing that they need a reason to be happy, instead of cutting out the middleman and just being happy as a choice.
Commercialism and marketing is a great cause for this neurotic expectation. It creates a void within, and sets the notion in mind that you don’t have all you need, and that there as a defect in your life. They are the puppet masters creating the reason for you to need a reason to be happy.
The most transformative advise that I have given to people is to do things for no reason. Just go to work, but don’t go with an outcome in mind. Head out with friends, but without the expectation of meeting someone. Try the new hobby, but without the need for it to be the next best thing. Just do for the sake of doing, and be for the sake of being.
It is not people or situations that let us down. It is our expectations of reason that let us down.
As the saying goes, Art for arts sake! In this, happiness will be your choice, and not by chance. Give for the sake of giving. Dance for the sake of dancing. Run for the sake of running. Enjoy for the sake of enjoying, and happiness will be the natural fragrance of your being.
Let there be light